Many clueless guys love to ask me, “How to get a girl to like you? I have absolutely no clue how to attract the women I like!”
It Is Not Rocket Science
Unlike learning computer science, attracting girls and improving your love and sex life is not something that really requires an extensive explanation for “why and what is the reason behind it?”.
We don’t need to dwell on the topic for hours and hours talking about some science behind all this desire that we all possess as men (and the similar desire for reproduction, of course, is possessed by women, as well – if you didn’t know, women are much hornier than men, but that is the topic for another article).
Whatever the case, you are here because you are curious, and since you are … let me tell you some theory and observations that I’ve made in my life by talking to hundreds of young men and coaching them on how to pick up women and become more naturally attractive as men.
You Are Not The Only One With This Problem!
First, I think that your problems are not even that “secretive” as you may think they are. From my experience of talking to these countless young men who were never taught by their dads how to attract the opposite sex, I can tell that the problems that you are having right now with the regard to the ability to attract opposite sex are shared by many of your other guy friends, as well!
You probably tried giving these girls “gifts” or some other material things, and probably without much success. In fact, I think that all you got was something like “ohh, thanks!” with a surprised look and awkward vibe that lasted. You would totally think that she would jump on you just right there and you would never have to worry about anything else in this world, right?
Well, poor fellow, that’s not how attraction works despite how Hollywood movies make us believe in that. Now, with that said, let me show you how to get a girl to like you, for real you! That means I will show you steps you need to take in order to make goddamn sure that you will be able to attract that girl with your natural charisma, and not end up with some gold digger.
There is absolutely more, and if you want to learn it – subscribe to my newsletters. However, let’s get to the “Action plan”.
How To Make A Girl Like You
Let’s see how to make a girl like you, as in let’s see the “steps” you will need to execute in order to have success with the opposite sex, as in with women and girls.
First Tip. Learn How To Flirt With Girls
1-Flirt With Her
What is flirting, you might be asking? Well, it is quite an interesting concept…
Learn how to flirt with girls.
2-Do not give yourself away too soon
While it is hard to believe in this, you do need to make sure that she can’t get you too easily. If all you are doing is “come to me! Come to me! Come to me!”, what you will end up doing is creating an aversion effect.
You may have heard about the saying that if you want to catch a butterfly, you need to be careful.
3-Be direct
Now, there comes a time when you need to show her that you are actually a creature that does not just want to be platonic friends with her. Really – if she is even remotely attractive, she probably has tons of friends on facebook, tons of friends in real-life (not necessarily in this very social circle), and tons of friends that she will be meeting every next year!
She doesn’t need yet another weak-minded guy who can only muster up so much as to talk to her. Sometimes you’ve got to pull the trigger – at least, hint to her that you don’t view her as a friend. Then, you will never ever have to face with friend zone, again.
4-Be unpredictable and dynamic
This is a subset of flirting and not giving yourself too much right away. Yes, you want to play with her, do some silly things, have a laugh together, etc.
5-You want to eventually start the physicality
I think it is actually the most important thing out of all. Can you imagine ever hooking up with a girl if you never touch her?
Have you ever invited a girl back home, spent 2 hours not doing and not even knowing what to do with her, and only then realized that you parted ways like platonic friends? How awkward that was! You never want something like that to happen to you again, so as soon as possible, you want to communicate to her that you are comfortable with being physical.
6-Gradually build confidence with women
This one is also one of the other most important things.
Have you ever seeb a guy, or a girl who could just walk up into the room, and all eyes would turn to that persona?
Well, you can do that too.
Learn how to build confidence with women.
7- Pay attention to her
You want to make sure that she is feeling comfortable, or at least the types of emotions that you want her to feel. There is some art to it.
Learn more about how to tell if a girl likes you.
Now, I want you to write all these down and then come back to me once everything has been studied.
Oh, and definitely go and try that on the women you like and report back the results – I’d really want to hear them!
Yours,
Kelvin Khong.
i get scared to do that what do i do
What exactly are you scared to do, Farhad?